Thursday, 11 April 2013

Things I wish I knew 10 years ago.

Get to know who you are, not who you think you are. Eat the foods you like, not the foods you think you ought to. Wear what you want to wear, not what the magazines say you should to 'flatter your figure.'

Fuck the whole idea of dressing to flatter your figure. It doesn't need to be 'flattered', there's nothing wrong with it. Wear what you like, don't wear what you don't like.

TO REPEAT AS ITS OWN POINT- THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOUR BODY. It's your only constant; thank it by looking after it. Degrading it with primping and squeezing, cuts, drugs, starvation or other abuse won't make your life or mental health any better. Oh, and a 'stitch in time saves nine' completely applies here- start being nice to yourself now, because the longer you're not, the more you'll have to fix.

Two simple rules- don't be a dick. Don't let anybody else be a dick.

Sometimes, people need a swift kicking. If someone hits you undeservedly (if it's deserved, you shouldn't have been a dick), hit them back twice as hard. But don't tell anyone I told you to do so.

Comparisons are moot. It might feel like your world is ending because of a bad hair cut, but there is always somebody worse off. REMINDING YOURSELF OF THAT IS LIKE KICKING YOURSELF WHEN YOU'RE DOWN- you're allowed to be sad. That said, giving to charity is a very good way of not being a dick (see above).

Those fashion magazines aren't your friends. The fashion and beauty industries are not your friends, they're industries dependent on making you feel bad. A celebrity's weight loss does not justify your own, nor does it show that you have to follow suit. Their cause isn't yours.

Pay no attention to those who can't string a decent insult together. Be too impressed by those who can, to be insulted.

Tell white lies. Say nothing behind a back that you haven't said to a face.

Turn off the tele; stop watching sitcoms about American lives and start living your own life. The people around you, for good and bad, are infinitely more interesting and complicated than the ones who inhabit the TV waves. Don't miss the real for paying too much attention to the scripted.

The best music isn't the stuff that nobody else has heard of, it's the stuff that makes you... I was going to say happy, but sometimes you need music for other times, too. It's the stuff that you need, whether that's popular or not.

It doesn't have to go school > college > university > job > marriage > children. Sometimes the order gets jumbled, sometimes the gaps between the steps are blurred and sometimes you don't ever hit all those points.- none of that is failure, it's just a mix of chance and choice.

Create your own family. Add the ones who matter from your biological family, take away those biological relations who don't deserve to be in your family, and add anybody and everything worthy you pick up along the way. Blood isn't reason enough to count or dis-count a person.

Make a list of everything you really care about, for when you're feeling down. You're in a unique position in the world, and maybe that unique position is the point from where injustices are made right. You have a duty to the world.

The future is formed on seaside sand. Nothing is for ever and you can't predict the waves, but that doesn't mean building a castle isn't a good way to spend a day.


  1. I love this Rebecca... so on point. I just love you and love how honest you are, everyone needs to stop beating around the bush and saying it like it is... you are the best :)

  2. This is amazing
    There are so many things that I wish I knew 10 years ago
    10 years ago I was I addicted to heroin and I've made so many mistakes and hurt so many people, most of all myself
    And having anorexia/bulimia also
    If I could go back in time I would tell myself not to be in such a hurry to grow up
    To not worry what others think
    That happiness does not come in a pill
    I am 30 now and am only beginning to turn my life around

    Take care x

  3. Your blog is amazing and the pictures too! Would you like to follow eachother?
    just let me know my dear! :)


  4. "The future is formed on seaside sand. Nothing is for ever and you can't predict the waves"

    Such truth. I have big relate for this. You don't realise how precious certain moments and certain people are until they're gone. My experiences in the past six months have really driven this home. Sorry to hijack the post and make it all about me, but I'M RELATING HERE, DAMN IT!!

  5. Some very good things to remember here.