Ok, so you know Topshop? It's that clothing company, the one of identical young women with daddy's money. It sometimes has a good sale. It's the high street shop that we like to browse through, before scoffing and just nipping into Primark. It rarely has anything in a size bigger than a 14. And the clothes/sizes it does have are only really good if your Topshop Princess body is a 6. Well now, Topshop has decided we should love our flaws. Isn't that lovely? Ignore the fact that being told to love your flaws is incredibly patronising and ignore the fact that, as mentioned, your flaws are only good enough to love if you're slim, what's there to argue with?
How about the fact that the flaws that you're meant to love are your self harms scars? Starting to get a bit dodgy, right? But sure, I'd say that acceptance is pretty important, as is self love. So I can kind of go with that.
It gets worse.
If you don't have self harm scars on your flawless body... you can now buy them in temporary tattoo form. And they're gold. And glittery.
Take a second for that one.
Forgive me if I sound bitter, but by making such a serious issue into a fashion accessory, it makes a mockery of it all. It makes our fights frivolous and shallow and empty. It fetishes what is usually a symptom of a potentially fatal illness, in the way that just wouldn't be done with symptoms of a serious physical disability. It's appropriation. Exploitation of our efforts. And it's wrong. Flat out wrong.
I'd like to think that this was a naive gesture that just was executed so, so misguidedly. I'm sure Topshop has seen that mental health awareness is being sought, that we're fighting a battle and slowly moving forward and they want to be a part of our cause. Naaaaat. I think, more likely, they saw this as a gesture to jump on a bandwagon for a bit of cash, because it's not like they were doing it for a mental health charity (which wouldn't make it any better, but I'd believe in the intentions being positive a bit more).
So I'll tell you this: flaws are what you make them. I don't think you have them, personally, but if you have parts that you don't like, then that's fine. Nobody has any right to tell you what you have to love or hate- including Topshop. Don't like that you're too big for their clothes? I'd blame their shitty sizing, not your body, but that's on you. Don't like your self-harm scars? Remember they are a part of your battle and let them remind you that you fought, but if that's a sore point then fair enough.
But by the same token, so you love your thighs, despite the fact that they don't showcase visible bones? Excellent, because you are perfect. Love your scars? You are more than your past, but there is nothing wrong with loving yourself.
Screw Topshop. I'd say screw white girls with bindis, feather headdresses and their new glittery scars, but that's a rash comment and not all that helpful. Instead, let's educate and unite and explain to anyone who thinks that this kind of crap is ok. Let's respect. That's something to love.